It’s 11:15pm right now as I begin to type this post and while I would have love to have created this post prior to the new year in this case a late start is better than never. Life happens sometimes we fall short of all that we have set out for ourselves and that’s ok it’s not the end of the world there’s always tomorrow right?
As I reflect on 2017, I can’t help but think about so many things in regards to what I had set out for my myself. What growth’s, short comings and failures also came along the way. Who supported those dreams/goals and those who haven’t. Those who created rumors and who may think the worst of you or not. And if at the end of it all does it really matter?
I know that this post may seem a bit unusual to say the very least. Considering the new year should be all about new adventures and the hopes of what is all to come. However, without recognizing all that we have learned within the past year about ourselves, those who surround us, the things we’d like to do/accomplish and the struggles we faced to get there I truly feel we are doing ourselves a disservice.
While I would also love to get extremely personal and vulnerable about all I have learned within the past year at this time I don’t think I am quite there just yet (Maybe someday I’ll be able to share more). But for now I’d love to share some of the things I do feel I am able to share with you all at this present moment.
For starters, life happens while we can’t control every single detail of our lives and the things that happen what we can control is how we view them. Learning to be grateful for the good we do have and have experienced is what life is really about.
Second, reevaluate your goals from time to time. Surround yourself by those who push you to strive towards your full potential. Doing so will not only help you attain that what you have set out for but it will also allow you to be surrounded by positive energy. If you don’t hit your goal within a specific timeline no worries, there’s no need to get down on yourself. There’s always tomorrow and having a support system who truly has your best interest will remind you of that.
Third, while it would be amazing to have a support system from family and friends sometimes those who you expect to support you are the ones that don’t. In fact, sometimes you’ll find that your biggest supporter’s are people who you barely even know and that’s ok. That’s no reason to quit just continue doing what it is you love to do and keep moving forward. Those who truly support you will continue to do so and besides those would be the people you truly want in your corner anyway.
Fourth, struggles are a part of the process. There’s a meme I’ve seen several times in the past that depicts what success looks like through the process vs. what people view success to be and let me tell you it’s quite an eye opener. While it may not be exactly true for everyone as there are some exceptions to the rule for the majority it holds true and serves as a reminder. (see images below)
Fifth, Cross out the goals you have smashed & revisit the ones you haven’t. Add them to your list for the new year and work towards them. Forget the time you think you have and use that time proactively. It’s ok to miss events if you’re using your time to be proactive towards getting one step closer to your goals.
Lastly, I’ll leave you with a quote which has inspired me recently which states “Success is a series of small wins”. At times it’s difficult to see the end of the tunnel as we drive through it and it can get discouraging for anyone, myself included. However, if we remind ourselves that if we don’t give up and just continue to move forward in time we will see that each small win led us to our big win. I hope that this post has encouraged you to help you reflect on 2017 and what changes and/or steps to take in 2018 towards accomplishing what your heart desires.
with love always,
Melissa xoxo ?